Your Support System

The last week in March proved very stressful and challenging for me, I had to push and use up my reserve strength (forgive me, now I’m just coasting).


I am currently doing a diploma in Marketing Communications, it’s been an enlightening journey but a very demanding one I must add, it reminded me of how deep I had to dig for Operational Research (OR) back when I was writing my CIPM exams phew! So the deadline for this module was April 1 and as at March 28th I was nowhere near ready to submit my coursework- Marketing & Consumer Behaviour looked like a mountain I wasn’t fit enough to surmount, I was ready to waste the money and defer, didn’t have the emotional strength to start rushing.

So I mentioned this decision to defer to my friends (sister included) and I got the best support system anybody could wish for:

  1. One said you said no, don’t be lazy, you can do it, don’t complicate things, it’s easy, it’s just that you complicate things sometimes. Do the draft, send the work for me to proofread. Your ban on coffee has been lifted burn the night candles, you have it in you, she said I’m not having any of this crap, do your work and rest later!
  2. A friend said to me, you can’t waste money oh, this course you paid in Pounds and with the current situation in Nigeria.
  3. Another said come let’s crack this together what exactly is the problem there, a respected friend of mine said No, Tayo you can do this, she brought materials for me to use (talk about backing her words with actions).
  4. A friend of mine and classmate of mine (who had an idea of the pressure) was like, you can do this TemiTee, where is the challenge, I was too embarrassed to tell her how far behind but did and she pushed me, gave me some tips and quick wins, kept checking on me, it seemed everyone but me believed in me
  5. I dragged my sister (@youngmumsreverie), into this, a pure science professional, took it upon herself to read materials to help with this assignment, she kept apologising for the delay in getting back to me, she even dragged her hubs to help out.

In the midst of this madness, I realised I hadn’t done the first thing I should have done- I hadn’t committed this assignment to God’s hands. So in one of my late nights, I took time out to tell God about my frustrations.

If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it. Ask boldly, believingly, without a second thought. People who “worry their prayers” are like wind-whipped waves. Don’t think you’re going to get anything from the Master that way, adrift at sea, keeping all your options open.- James 1:5-8

In truth, I wasn’t going to worry my prayers.

So this experience had me thinking, that I have a really solid support system and a God who doesn’t need any form of back-up.

Your support system is your life’s UPS, they are the ones who charge you up when you are down and under and need a boost, who do you surround yourself with?

Are they people who will give you that boost or just drain the rest of your batteries? Are they people who will remind you and guide you to return to the light and the ultimate power source- God. Take a conscious step to surround yourself with the right people today. When the tables are turned, are you someone’s solid support system, do people look to you for that boost when they are low?

Then there’s God, the ULTIMATE light, He alone is responsible for ensuring you don’t breakdown in this race called life. He had outrightly said it:

Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.- Matthew 11: 28-30

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I’m glad to inform you that I met the deadline and submitted my assignment.


When We Pray!

Ties bandanna, wears nose mask, armed with long broom, the perfect jazz and soft rock music playing…Taemytayo is clearing the cobwebs on her blog.

It’s been a while i made an appearance here, that’s not for a lack of thought or lack of what to write, no it’s definitely none of that. Basically, i have been going through things, learning things…so much to take in, that articulating them has become a bit of a challenge. Well here I am, resurfaced to share some things i have learnt these past months.

First I’d like to ask a question, what goes through your mind when you pray?

Do you expect the answer to your prayers to be in the format you envisaged? 


Do you expect your will to prevail over God’s will? 

Are you in the prayer of Gethsemane category of Lord let your will be done? 

39 Going a little ahead, he fell on his face, praying, “My Father, if there is any way, get me out of this. But please, not what I want. You, what do you want?”- Matthew 26: 39 MSG

Often times as human beings we expect things to happen through our calculations i.e we want a car, Lord let my car loan request be approved or let me be blessed financially to buy a car, we forget the power of the God of wonders. What makes you think you can’t be given a car as a gift?

The more we grow in Christ, we understand that our wish may necessarily not be aligned with God; Jesus understood that in the garden of Gethsemane and that’s why he said in verse 42-

“My Father, if there is no other way than this, drinking this cup to the dregs, I’m ready. Do it your way.”- Matthew 26:42 MSG

Trust makes or mar every relationship, a relationship where trust is out of the window is a doomed relationship. As one who has a relationship with God, when we pray, we connect our spirit with God, telling Him how we truly feel (all facade of strength has been dropped), we are naked with Him, telling Him what we would love the end result of what we are feeling should be, but trusting Him to choose the best option for us.

When God tells you, “relax, I’ve got this” (through His word or the HolySpirit), He really has got it. So like i tell my family and close friends, don’t do the maths for God, He knows every strand of hair on your head and has only your interest at heart. Are you praying for something and all road seems blocked? You should be more confident in God’s ability to make a way for you- He specializes in that…look at the world we live in, He made it out of nothing, look at all the inventions in this world he created man out of mere dust!

Often times when we pray, we aren’t ready for the answer to our prayer, but guess what, no one commits his ways to God is ever disappointed. Praying to God for that promotion and you got laid off? It’s a hard reality to face, but your answer may just be that dismissal, in the future when you take a retrospective look at the past (your current present), you will be thankful for being laid off. How else would you have started that business that’s the answer to people’s prayers? How else would you have had that chanced meet with your future partner?

If God can take care of the lilies whose raiment is prettier than Solomon’s robe (a very rich fashion conscious king), if God can send food to Elijah through the most stingy bird, the Raven…not once but twice a day, if God can use mud (that is suppose to muddy one’s sight) to give sight to a blind man, then you should trust the same God to sort you out when you pray.

If God is not answering you in the route you expected, that’s because you are working with sentiments and limited knowledge. Remember He uses the foolish things of this world to confound the wise.

When we pray, always ensure you let go and let God, be open to the different routes through which he will answer your prayer. When in doubt, just believe and tell all who cares to know #God’sgotit!

See you in the thanksgiving room! Please read, comment and share!